As women, we must empower each other. Embrace the community of sisterhood. Let’s continue to be fearless as we advocate for each other. This empowerment should transcend generations. Generally, as one grows older, one acquires wisdom as one goes through the various phases of life. Beginning in my teen years, I always had friends older than I. Sometimes much older. They would often give me advice on various topics. I learned so much from them. They kept me from making a lot of bad mistakes. The key is to listen, pay attention and heed their advice. I have a friend today who is a little more than 20 years my senior. She has lived life to the fullest with few regrets. My daughter calls my friend her hero. She went roller skating in her sixties and ran a 5k in her mid-seventies. In her eighties, she is still pretty. Through my friends, I have gained a lot of wisdom and passed it on to younger generations. How did I get here? I am now in my sixties, and it seems like yesterday when my mother told me that my ex planned to marry me. I had no clue, and I wonder today just how she knew. I was casually dating a couple of other guys at the time also. An older lady once told me, “Never date a guy you don’t plan to marry because you may end up marrying him.” We guess who didn’t listen. It happened to me. Another friend once said to never assume that your husband will have you as the beneficiary on his life insurance. Well, guess what? This happened to a friend of mine. During her divorce, she found out her husband had somehow gotten rid of the policies they had on each other and purchased a different policy. Her attorney informed her that with his new policy, he could change the beneficiary at any time. She had no clue since he handled all the finances. It also pays to have older male friends or associates. They can give you valuable advice from a male point of view. Some of my male friends have enlightened me during various situations in my life and saved me a lot of grief. Funny how life seems to repeat itself. The game doesn’t change, just the players do.
By Emmerstine Mackie
Divorce Coach for the Seasoned Woman