THE IMPORTANCE OF A GOOD SUPPORT GROUP

THE IMPORTANCE OF A GOOD SUPPORT GROUP

I cannot stress enough the importance of a good support group.  This is particularly important when you are going through a separation or divorce.  Get rid of negative people.  You know the ones I am talking about.  They keep telling you how lonely it will be on your own, or how hard it is to find a decent man.  They even tell you how bad things will turn out financially for you.  These are not true friends.  Do not listen to them.  This happened to me.  I made the mistake of listening to them.  Even though I had a great attorney, I was beyond scared at my legal separation hearing.  I now thank God for my attorney.  My ex looked so confident, and this made me even more afraid.  I remember there was a couple near the courtroom.  My attorney asked me if I knew them.  I thought to myself, oh my God he brought witnesses.  I’m in trouble.”  They ended up being there for another hearing.  I thought to myself, “thank goodness.” You must admit we all have dirty laundry we don’t want to be aired.  Things turned out better than I had expected.  So, from experience, I can tell you the effects of surrounding yourself with negative people.  Instead, surround yourself with positive individuals.  Get a cheering squad.  This is what I tell people who are contemplating going into business.  Get a cheering squad.  People who tell you that you can do this.  Join a support group for separated or divorced women.  You may find some valuable contacts in this type of group.  Included are people who have gone through this process and have firsthand experience.  Also, financial planners, accountants, and counselors can be helpful.  You may even run into someone who can help you land a job or earn additional income.  Think of this as a business.  Networking and mentoring have been the key to many successful ventures.

Emmerstine Mackie

Divorce Coach for the “Seasoned Woman”