PUTTING ON A HAPPY FACE

PUTTING ON A HAPPY FACE

Going through a separation or divorce can be one of the most painful and stressful times in one’s life.  Oftentimes, you are blindsided and didn’t see it coming. Your world has been turned upside down. How did this happen?  You think to yourself, “where do I go from here?” You thought this relationship would last forever. You are devastated and spend your days and nights crying. You find it difficult to get out of bed, but you have to go on with your life.  You have a job and responsibilities you have to address.  How can you face everyone?  They, along with you, felt you had a good relationship.  How can you pretend to be happy when you are dying inside?  Can you make it on just your income?  Damn, you just brought a new car.  How could this be happening?  There is an old saying, “never let them see you sweat.”  If your life is in turmoil, everyone does not need to know.  Pick yourself up and dust yourself off. You have to go on.  You will eventually get through this.  It may take some time, but you will be better once you get to the other side.  This relationship was probably not meant for you.  There’s a reason an eraser and delete key were invented.  They allow you to make a correction and start over.  The same goes for a divorce.  It allows you to end a relationship and start your life over. Don’t dwell on the past.  Smile and look forward to the future.  Put on your best happy face.  This is just a roadblock you have to maneuver around and choose a different path or direction.  Remember things happen for a reason.  One day you will look back and wonder why you stayed so long.  Heck, you will probably wish you had left sooner. It’s never too late for a do-over.  Make a list of your goals for the future.  What do you want to do with the rest of your life? You still have a lot of living to do.  So smile and face the world.

By Emmerstine Mackie

Divorce Coach for the “Seasoned Woman