So, are you dating now?  Do you feel he is the one?  Women generally want to be in love and know that they are loved.  It is a wonderful feeling.  Maybe you are alone, feeling lonely, and looking for love?  How long has it been since your breakup?  As seasoned women, we sometimes feel that we may never find love after a long-term relationship.  A lot of older men gravitate toward younger women.  So, where does that leave older women?  Do we sometimes settle because of this?  We all want to find Mr. Right. If our quest to find Mr. Right is taking longer than we hoped, do you settle for Mr. Right Now?  As women, we sometimes do this.  We want a man in our life and/or bed even if it’s the wrong one.  A relationship started under these circumstances generally does not last.  Always keep your list handy and review it regularly. This list has the desirable qualities you want in a man and the undesirable traits you don’t want. Make sure the things you desire are reasonable.  Revisit and revise the list if needed.  When you meet a man, look at your list.   Does he have your desirable traits?  Now, look at your undesirable traits.  Does he have most or all of these traits?  If so, remember the Kenny Rogers’ gambler song and know when to walk away and know when to run. If you meet a man that meets 8 out of 10 items on your list, maybe you should consider him especially if he doesn’t have any of your undesirable traits. Ladies, sometimes we need to be flexible.   Don’t bend too much.  Too much bending can hurt your back.  Are you looking for marriage or just companionship?  If you meet a man in his fifties or sixties who has never been married or single for a long time, take a closer look.  Don’t just automatically assume he hasn’t met the right woman.  He may have met several right women but just doesn’t want to get married.  Beware, he may not reveal this fact.  Don’t assume that you will be the right woman and walk down the aisle.  You may be in for a rude awakening.  You may not realize this until after dating for a couple of years.  Marriage may never come up or it’s avoided.  If you don’t plan to get married, this may be the right relationship for you.  Remember, the old saying, “love can be blind.”  In this case, get thicker glasses. 

By Emmerstine Mackie

Divorce Coach for the “Seasoned Woman”

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