FREE FROM BONDAGE

FREE FROM BONDAGE

Initially, the end of a relationship may seem devasting. As time goes on, this feeling will probably fade.  You start to feel independent and liberated as you begin to navigate life on your own. You start to feel more comfortable and realize you can do this.  Life on your own is pretty good.  You wonder why you were so afraid in the beginning. You are free from a relationship you didn’t realize was so toxic.  Sometimes, we don’t realize how bad a relationship is until it has ended.  You look back and say to yourself, “wow, I can’t believe I put up with that” or “gee, I stayed too long.”  We are all familiar with the story of Moses leading the Israelites from bondage out of Egypt.  He led them through the wilderness, and they eventually made it to the Promised Land.  It took them forty years to make it through the wilderness.   Hopefully, your journey won’t last this long.  Remain steadfast and focused along the way.  You have made it out of bondage from your Egypt. You just need to make it through the wilderness.  The grieving part is your wilderness.  At points along the way, when the going got difficult, the Israelites became discouraged.  They wanted to turn around and go back to Egypt.  They complained and became fed up.  Eventually, they reached the Promised Land.  Don’t be like them.  Never give up and try to go back.  Typically, it will probably not be better the second time around.  Keep your eyes focused on the road ahead.  You will experience grief, but it won’t last forever. Your Promised Land is just around the corner.  Brighter days are on the horizon.  Don’t spend your time looking back at the past.  You can’t change it.  Map out your way to the Promised Land.  Do you need coaching, counseling, or financial planning?  Make sure you have your tools in place to help you along the way.  Avoid distractions such as alcohol, drugs, and sex. They only serve as band-aids for the moment and are not long-term solutions.  Join a support group to help with the grieving process.  Spend time with family and friends.  Get a dog.  The four-legged kind!  Make sure you are prepared once you make it to your Promised Land.

By Emmerstine Mackie

Divorce Coach for the “Seasoned Woman”