Finding Mr. Right
After your break-up, do you find yourself wondering if you will ever find love again? As seasoned women, we wonder if there is someone out there that will truly love us. Regardless of our age, we all have a desire to be loved and in love. We want someone to share our life with. Most of us desire intimacy on some level. Be patient. You will find love again. The key is to give yourself time to grieve and heal from the prior relationship. Don’t jump headfirst into another relationship until you are truly ready. Anyone can put up a good front at the beginning. Give it time. They can’t hide their true self forever. If you sense undesirable qualities, run, don’t walk to the nearest exit. The relationship generally will not get better. Usually, a man is on his best behavior at the beginning of the relationship. It can go downhill quickly once he has reeled you in! As women, we tend to be nurturers. We sometimes think that we can change a man. Wrong! This is normally not the case. The older a man gets, the more he becomes set in his ways, and the same goes for us ladies. I remember my mom telling me many years ago that some women think that a piece of man is better than none at all. I say no to this and so should you. Don’t tolerate a bad relationship just to say you have someone. You will lose yourself in the process. Men can sense when you are wounded and getting over a relationship. They will often try to take advantage of this, so watch out for the wolf in sheep’s clothing. Put off getting into a new relationship until you have gone through the grieving process. This is estimated to take approximately two years. Speaking from experience, two years will pass by before you know it. In the meantime, enjoy your life where you are at the moment. I always say, “be a little selfish,” You have earned the right! Live your life with no regrets.
By Emmerstine Mackie
Divorce Coach for the “Seasoned Woman”