ADVICE TO MY YOUNGER SELF
If you could go back and advise your younger self, what would you tell her? If you could go back to any age from your past, what age would that be? I’m sure you’ve heard the old saying, “If I knew then what I know now.” There’s another saying, “Hindsight is 20/20.” These are all cliches that address regrets of the past. Another one is, “Don’t cry over spilled milk.” You can’t dwell on things that happened in the past because they can’t be changed. What if it was possible to hit the delete key and go back to the past. Pretend for a moment that it was possible to advise your younger self. What would you tell her? I would tell myself that I could accomplish whatever I wanted to if I put my mind to it. My mother’s best friend told me years after my mother died that my mother told her this about me. Before that, I didn’t know she felt that way. I wish she had told me. I would also tell my younger self to hang in there when the going gets tough because things usually get better. I would also tell her that her worth comes from within and not from someone else. Lastly, I would tell her to run like the wind when she meets a man with the same name as my ex. If I could go back to any age from my past it would be forty-five. I was still hot and tight, and things had not started to fall. My kids were grown, and life was good. I was still young and could travel without worrying about a babysitter. If I knew that I would be divorced later, I would have given my ex the finger on a more regular basis. When we were younger, the army had a slogan that they would make a man out of you. I would tell my ex that I was going to sue the army for false advertisement. Come to think of it, sixty is not such a bad age. If I keep doing squats, eventually my butt will stop falling and lift back up. This thing called aging; you can’t dodge it. Just try to learn from your mistakes and keep it moving.
By Emmerstine Mackie
Divorce Coach for the Seasoned Woman